JOMO - The Joy of Missing Out

For a long time, I thought something was wrong with me. Everyone around me seemed to feel FOMO (fear of missing out). Invitations. Opportunities. Trends. Investments. Experiences.

Meanwhile, I felt… nothing.

No urgency.
No panic.
No sense that I needed to be everywhere or doing everything.

What I eventually realized is this: I wasn’t missing out. I was experiencing JOMO - the Joy of Missing Out.

JOMO Isn’t Disengagement. It’s Discernment.

JOMO isn’t about avoidance or withdrawal.

It’s not apathy.

And it’s definitely not fear.

JOMO comes from trust.

Trust in your timing.
Trust in your values.
Trust that what’s meant for you won’t require scrambling, chasing, or proving.

When JOMO is present, the nervous system is calm.
The mind is clear.
The signal is stronger than the noise.

You don’t say “no” because you’re afraid of the wrong thing.
You say “no” because you’re protecting the right things.

Why FOMO Feels Loud and JOMO Feels Quiet

FOMO thrives in comparison and speed. It whispers:

• “What if everyone else knows something you don’t?”
• “What if you fall behind?”
• “What if you miss the moment?”

JOMO responds softly:

• “If it’s mine, it will meet me.”
• “Depth matters more than breadth.”
• “I don’t need every door, just the right ones.”

FOMO is reactive.
JOMO is responsive.

FOMO consumes energy.
JOMO preserves it.

JOMO Is a Sign of Alignment

Here’s the part that doesn’t get talked about enough - people who experience JOMO often have:

• A strong internal compass
• A long-view perspective
• A deep sense of self-trust

They’re not uninterested in life.
They’re highly selective about where their energy goes.

They understand that everything has a cost, even good things.
And they’re unwilling to dilute alignment for the sake of inclusion or hype.

This isn’t missing out.
This is choosing intentionally.

The Quantum Joy of Missing Out

From a quantum lens, attention is energy.

Where you place it matters.

JOMO allows energy to:

• Stay coherent instead of scattered
• Compound instead of fragment
• Deepen instead of accelerate

When you stop chasing every possibility, something interesting happens:
The right possibilities get louder.

Less noise.
More resonance.
More joy.

A Closing Thought

If you’ve ever felt out of step because you don’t experience FOMO, consider this:

Maybe that's the exact right thing - maybe you are actually ahead and operating on a different timeline.

You’re not missing the party.
You’re hosting a life that actually fits.

And that?
That’s not absence.

That’s Quantum Joy.

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Key Questions to Enter a New Year with Presence

The end of the year always feels like an invitation—slow, steady, quiet.

A moment to pause before stepping into a new chapter.

We often rush into resolutions and goals, believing we need to reinvent ourselves by January 1. 

But the truth is: the wisest transitions come from reflection, not reinvention.

Here are three questions that create space to honor the year with presence and step into the next with intention:

1. What am I proud of?

Not the loud accomplishments.
Not the boxes checked.

But the quiet things: the ways you showed up, the moments you chose kindness, the boundaries you honored, the love you gave, the resilience you found.

2. What am I ready to carry forward?

Some moments become anchors.
Some habits become scaffolding.
Some insights become north stars.

This question asks:
What fueled me this year?
What energized me?
What brought me joy, connection, or clarity?

Carry those into the new year.

3. What version of me am I leaving behind?

Every year changes us.
Sometimes subtly, sometimes profoundly.

And part of stepping forward is gently releasing the versions of ourselves that no longer match the life we’re creating—old fears, old stories, old expectations.

This isn’t about letting go with force.
It’s about letting go with gratitude.

A Closing Thought

Presence makes endings softer and beginnings clearer.
When you take time to reflect, you step into the new year not with pressure, but with clarity.
Not with urgency, but with alignment.

Joy is quantum that way - it grows when you pause long enough to notice who you’ve become
and when you walk intentionally into the new year with who you want to be
and what you choose to carry forward.

The Quiet Magic of Traveling with Presence

Travel has a way of expanding us - not because of how much we see, but because of how deeply we see it.

On our recent trip to London, I was reminded how joy isn’t found in the intensity of a packed itinerary or the pressure to “maximize the moment.” For us, travel is never about checking boxes. We roam. We wander. We eat. We soak in the world around us without rushing toward the next thing. And somehow, that energy makes itself known.

Interestingly at the Heathrow airport, a young British woman approached us and asked for help with directions. She smiled and said, “You all just look like you know what you’re doing.”

I laughed, because the truth is—we didn’t have a plan. What we did have was presence. We were grounded, together, and open to the experience unfolding around us.

And maybe that’s what she saw.

Because when you travel with presence - when you choose to notice the small joys, the unexpected conversations, the shared glances, the silly signs, the warm pastries, the perfect cup of coffee - you begin to emit a different kind of calm. People feel it. You feel it. The world feels a little more connected.

That doesn’t mean everything goes smoothly. There are always hiccups. Delayed flights, long walks, wrong turns, weather you didn’t expect. But when you see those moments as part of the story rather than interruptions to it, they soften. They even become part of the joy.

London reminded me that the magic isn’t in the landmarks. It’s in laughing with your family as you navigate a new Tube station. It’s in watching the world move around you from a café window. It’s in the simple gratitude of being somewhere new and being together.

Joy is quantum that way - it expands when you pay attention.

And the more present you are, the more the world opens up.